The old-school idea of dating was pretty easy: Think about what you want, post ads, show up at the bar and hope for the best. But it’s 2013, and traditional dating has become increasingly archaic. If you want to meet someone, you need to have a plan, and this guide will help you put together one. You’re going to want one of the following: a profile, a like-minded match, or both.
Your Personal Profile
Before even stepping foot on Match.com, you’ll want to make sure your personal profile is rock solid. With today’s casual culture, the dating landscape is filled with a bunch of profiles filled with a bunch of nonsense. A lot of people just dump their entire life on their profile and hope for the best. That’s lazy. Putting a lot of yourself out there for your potential partner means they’ll have more to work with if you happen to make a match. It’s also really fun.
So, you’re going to want to make sure you’re putting at least some effort into your profile.
In all cases, you want to make sure you’re upfront about what kind of guy you’re looking for. Don’t come in with a list of preferences (I want tall, I prefer single moms, I want skinny, non-smokers, etc.), because there are just too many traits to list. The best way to pinpoint what you’re looking for is to talk about yourself: what you like and don’t like, your favorite activities, you hobbies, what moves you, and more. Really think about what you want in a mate, and answer that question in your profile. (Be honest!) Then you can share this with other people on the site to see what kind of matches they make.
Remember to be honest! If you’re a really good-looking cat, show the world. But if you’re honest, then the only cat you’ll be going after is the right one.
Your Photos and Video
We live in a new media world: We can go on instagram and share our lives—or put them into a photo album for potential matches to see. Photo profiles (or pic profiles as they are known on the site) can be an important tool for getting to know someone, so putting them together, even if only with one picture, is a good idea. Think about it this way: If you have a profile and no pictures, you’re just a profile. If you have https://www.sumy-romantic.com/are_ukrainian_girls_the_best_for_hookup_dating_and_why_meet_them.html
After reading over these tips, you’ll be ready to get out there and get to know those dating options out there (namely, online dating and local dating). We suggest starting with some of the local dating tips and moving forward from there.
Online Dating Tips
If you’ve been putting off online dating and want to give it a try, here are a few tips to get you started.
Check Your Settings Before You Chat, OK?
You know how when you’re talking to someone, you get a feeling for them? It’s kind of like that. You can tell if a person seems nice, or a jerk, or whatever. So, you have that feeling, and you finally say something. Problem is, you said something about someone who just came across as really weird.
The problem with that is that you aren’t sure whether to take it personally or not. Maybe the guy just really didn’t like you. Maybe he’s a jerk. Maybe he just didn’t mean to be a jerk. He doesn’t have anything against you. And yet, you’re pretty sure you were flirting with the wrong guy.
Most people are not bad people. But that doesn’t mean they’re good. The last thing you want to do is go on a date and find out that you’ve wasted your time. You don’t want to offend a person you’re interested in; just because they’re flawed, doesn’t mean they’re not worth your time.
So, a friend told me, in the spirit of sharing, “You can never tell if you’re messing up in online dating unless you ask yourself, ‘What would I want to hear if this person was just an innocent person?’
You know what that means. It means that, every time you think you’re getting a bad vibe, it’s not. A sign that you are a great person, and that’s that. And then you’ll go on great dates. That’s what makes dating work. And what makes it confusing, is that you just can’t tell if what you’re getting is a bad vibe that you’re bringing on yourself, or if you’re getting a bad vibe that’s actually coming from that person.
And a friend of mine really, really badgered me about this. “You just gotta be sure, right?” So, if you were chatting online, you might want to think about switching up your chat settings—or not, as you see fit. When you